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I'd really love it if you all could find out some possible candidates for Phuture Doom members. A lot of the /r/deadmau5 users on Reddit really think that deadmau5 may be one of them, but there are many possibilities. What is really suspicious is how they got signed to OWSLA with less than 10 concerts and not even an entire album. They only had 2-4 songs released, and suddenly they're on a major label. Due to the fact that Skrillex and Porter Robinson own OWSLA, this suggests an inside connection. I'd really love it if you guys could find some information about who might be a member!
Give your complete attention to the person you are listening to and make eye contact.
EFFECTIVE listening is active rather than passive. In passive listening, you are much like a tape recorder, but not nearly as accurate.
You try to absorb as much of the information presented as possible. Even if the speaker provides you with a clear message and makes his or her delivery interesting enough to keep your attention, your memory of what was said will soon fade.
Active listening requires you to empathise with the speaker so that you can understand the communication from his and her point of view. Active listening is hard work. You have to concentrate and you have to want to fully understand what a speaker is saying.
This active listening model forms the foundation for making you an effective listener:
Be motivated
If a listener is unwilling to exert the effort to bear and understand, no amount of additional advice is likely to improve listening effectiveness. So your first step towards becoming an effective listener is a willingness to make the effort.
Make eye contact
It is ironic that while "you listen with your ears, people judge whether you are listening by looking at your eyes". Making eye contact with the speaker focuses your attention, reduces the likelihood that you will become distracted, and encourages the speaker.
Show interest
The effective listener shows interest in what is being said through non-verbal signals. Affirmative head nods and appropriate facial expressions, when added to good eye contact, convey to the speaker that you're listening.
Avoid distracting actions
The other side of showing interest is avoiding action that suggest your mind is somewhere else. When listening, don't look at your watch, shuffle papers, play with your smartphone, or engage in similar distractions. They make the speaker feel that you're bored or uninterested.
Express empathy
The active listener tries to understand what the speaker sees and feels by putting him or herself in the speaker's shoes. Don't project your own needs and intentions onto the speaker. When you do so, you are likely to hear what you want to hear.
See the whole picture
The effective listener interprets feelings and emotions as well as factual content. If you listen to words alone and ignore other vocal cues and non-verbal signals, you will miss a wealth of subtle messages.
Ask questions
The critical listener analyses what he or she hears and asks questions. This behaviour provides clarification, ensures understanding, and assures the speaker that you're listening.
Paraphrase
Paraphrasing means restating what the speaker has said in your own words. The effective listener uses phrases such as: "What I think you are saying is ...". By rephrasing what the speaker has said in your, own words, and feeding it back to the speaker, you verify the accuracy of your understanding.
Don't interrupt
Let the speaker complete his or her thought before you try to respond. Don't try to second-guess where the speaker's thoughts are going.
Integrate what's being said
Instead of treating each new piece of information as an independent entity, put the pieces together. Treat each part of the message as if it were an additional piece of a puzzle.
Don't overtalk
While talking may be more fun and silence may be uncomfortable, you can't talk and listen at the same time. The good listener recognises this fact and doesn't over talk.
Confront your biases
There are "redflag" words that draw our attention or cause us to draw premature conclusions. Examples might include terms like racist, feminist or environmentalist. Use information about the speaker to improve your understanding of what he has to say, but don't let your biases distort the message.
Make smooth transitions
In most work situations, you're continually shifting back and forth between the roles of speaker and listener. From a listening perspective, this means concentrating on what a speaker has to say and practising, not thinking about what you are going to say as soon as you get your chance.
Be natural
An effective listener develops a style that is natural and authentic. If you exaggerate eye contact, facial expressions, the asking of questions, showing of interest, and the like, you will lose credibility. A good listener is not a manipulator.
Gara-gara rapat dengan wanita, MILEY CYRUS dituduh Biseksual
TANG popular bernama Miley Cyrus memang tidak pernah sunyi dari kontroversi. Terbaru muncul khabar angin yang mengatakan bahawa pelantun Wrecking Ball ini adalah seorang biseksual.
Seperti dilaporkan oleh Showbizspy, wanita 21 tahun ini dikatakan pernah dilihat beraksi mesra dengan beberapa wanita di dalam sebuah pesta. Salah satu sumber pernah menyatakan bahawa Miley turut melakukan 'sesuatu' dengan para wanita itu dalam sebuah bilik tertutup.
"Dia bereksperimen dengan beberapa wanita dan mungkin mereka sudah melakukan bertiga. Dia benarbenar biseksual. Dia mengajak ramai wanita ke rumahnya sepanjang waktu, dan bermesra dengan mereka," jelas salah satu sumber terdekat.
Sumber tersebut turut menjelaskan bahawa sejak kebelakangan ini, Miley memang lebih tertarik pada golongan wanita berbanding lelaki. Ada yang mengatakan sikap Miley ini mula berubah disebabkan perpisahannya dengan Liam Hemsworth. Ternyata perpisahan itu cukup membuatkan hidup Miley menderita dan dia sukar menerima kenyataan.
