>>9735344At the time I was a blogger/minor 4chan celebrity and she decided to e-mail me because links to my blog were being posted on some site she browsed.
I'm a musician and I travel a lot. I'm a writer and a performer and an artist, so I guess the whole weighing-300-pounds thing didn't bother her that much, since she was so attracted to my lifestyle and personality.
She was the first "mature" relationship I ever entered into and she was very serious about committing to me - more serious than any of the other girls who have been interested in the past. She didn't send me any mixed signals and made it very clear that she wanted to be with me.
Being that fat growing up left me really insecure, so I was never willing to take any social risks. With her there was no risk.
I no longer feel so insecure. I've lost weight and continued to grow as an artist and as a human. She, on the other hand, has not improved in any way other than bringing me into her life.
I would love to be with an artist. Someone who will sing and write with me. She refuses to sing and has no interest in what I do. When I sing or perform for her, she behaves the same way that she does when we have sex; she just lies there and lets me do all the work. Songwriting had always been one of the most important things in my life, but has almost come to a complete standstill since we've been together. She doesn't inspire me, which is possibly the most difficult thing I've had to accept.
tl;dr
As long as you're not boring/retarded, you can be as fat as you want and someone decent will be attracted to you. Without being physically attractive, though, you do in fact have to work extra hard at making yourself attractive in other ways. Any line of bullshit about just being yourself or that you deserve love no matter what is not to be trusted.