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I'm a girl in my 20s. About a year ago I was put on a new type of BC pill and ever since my sex drive had been almost non-existent. This pill is known to murder women's libidos. Prior to this, I fucked, masturbated and thought about sex almost 24/7. Now, I have no interest in any of that. I don't masturbate and I don't think about sex, I am rarely horny and when I do have sex, I don't get soaking wet and its just not as pleasurable. I am also in a longterm relationship and living with somebody who I love and desire. My lack of libido has been a serious hindrance for us and frustrating as hell for him. He assured me that he loves me but this morning he expressed the wish to sleep with other people.
I'd normally be gung-ho about sleeping with other people but not like this. First of all, I can't enjoy this freedom. Second, he's a true die-hard monogamist and the only reason he wants this is because he isn't getting sex with me. Which I understand but find extremely hurtful. I am not denying him sex by choice and the situation is frustrating and hurtful and upsetting for me as well! I am going to see my doctor next week to switch BC pills and to see what can be done. He knows this and, instead of being supportive and encouraging, he suggest that he sleeps with other people. I have lost trust in him because I don't feel safe and loved. At a time when I feel vulnerable and guilty, he choses this as a resolution to our problem. No other suggestions have been made nor much effort put into helping me get in the mood or get more help.
I am frustrated and need help to make sense of it all. I am in need of advice because I am not sure how to proceed and how to feel and I'm afraid that if I act too rash, this relationship may die.