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Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:21:00 No.5872222 View View Reply Original Report

Quoted By: >>5872241 >>5872242 >>5872259

>Boyfriend tells me he never wants kids.
>Am okay with that because I don't really like kids anyway.
>Ask him what would happen if the pill failed and I got preggers.
>Wants me to get an abortion and if not absolutely refuses to help take care of the kid or pay for it.
>Feel a little hurt over that answer.

I don't think I could ever go through with an abortion, and I'm a bit hurt that he would completely disown the kid if I kept it. What the hell?

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:23:00 No.5872238 Report

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Would you really let a kid live a shitty life because of a dumb accident. Just spare it the trouble and abort it.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:24:00 No.5872241 Report

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>>5872222
If you're that worried about money then do surgical castration on yourself bitch.

Anonymous

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Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:24:00 No.5872242 Report

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>>5872222
>2222

Some people are assholes

LeBlanc! !iVQrXfoxT6

LeBlanc! !iVQrXfoxT6 Tue 03 May 2011 04:24:00 No.5872245 Report

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He's sticking to his guns, you're a cunt. Deal with it and tell him to wrap his shit too, then.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:24:00 No.5872246 Report

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>make him pay child support for 18 years
AMURIKA

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:24:00 No.5872248 Report

Quoted By: >>5872269

Why does it bother you so much? Deal with it.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:25:00 No.5872259 Report

Quoted By: >>5872312

>>5872222
Doesn't sound like he's ready for a serious relationship and won't be during his time with you. Just drop him.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:26:00 No.5872269 Report

Quoted By: >>5872275

>>5872248

Because he'd dump me if I wanted to keep the kid. He wouldn't want to stay with me and help me at all.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:27:00 No.5872274 Report

Quoted By: >>5872322

>Neither wants kids
>Proposes having a kid
>Boyfriend tells the truth
>bawwww

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:27:00 No.5872275 Report

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>>5872269
Yeah, this relationship isn't going anywhere. If you're in it for the long term, get out now.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:27:00 No.5872278 Report

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Yeah, I'd talk to your boyfriend about this.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:27:00 No.5872279 Report

Quoted By: >>5872356

>He doesn't want kids.
>That means he doesn't want kids.
>You ask him "what would you do if we have a kid?"
>He tells you he doesn't want a kid.

What were you expecting, exactly?

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:28:00 No.5872287 Report

Quoted By: >>5872331

tell your ass-hole boyfriend to get a vasectomy so you can get off the pill and stop fucking with your hormones

/thread

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:28:00 No.5872291 Report

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he doesn't want kids. Why do you expect him to want them if you refuse to abort?

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:30:00 No.5872312 Report

Quoted By: >>5872326

>>5872259
No, dumbfuck, it sounds like he doesn't want to have a kid is all. By your logic, the only people who are ready for a relationship are the ones who want children.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:30:00 No.5872314 Report

Quoted By: >>5872356

Shit happens, and if there were things your boyfriend could have done to avoid them and didn't, he should deal with the consequences. Tell him that.

Like you said, you don't want kids either, right? An accident is an accident, but you still take care of it. You don't leave spilled milk on the floor.

>icligi Pooonini

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:30:00 No.5872322 Report

Quoted By: >>5872335

>>5872274
Shit happens. His reaction was childish and not thought out.

OP may want to talk about this with him and if you guys still don't see eye to eye it's time to leave him.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:30:00 No.5872324 Report

Quoted By: >>5872351

What you want is not what he wants.

Some hurdles are easy to jump, like not doing the dishes or some shit, but this is one of the biggies. Learn to deal or trade up.

Sounds easy, right? Well, at least he gave you the out in this situation. Most couples have to wait for a miracle.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:31:00 No.5872326 Report

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>>5872312
Not wanting a kid is fine, telling a partner that he'd drop her completely if she were to get pregnant is another story.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:31:00 No.5872331 Report

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>>5872287
For real

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:32:00 No.5872335 Report

Quoted By: >>5872339

>>5872322

My girlfriend doesn't want a child. I don't want a child. She would have an abortion if she got pregnant accidentally.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:32:00 No.5872337 Report

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Tell him to get a vasectomy. This will ensure you don't get pregnant with him.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:32:00 No.5872338 Report

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he has to say this bluntly, i know you are hurt over it, but he has to do it, ill try to help you understand

see he knows the truth that sometimes love doesnt last forever, not saying that yours is like that cus i dont know you. but it does happen

now sometimes when love fades, the woman will pick up on it, and if she doesnt want to lose the guy, she may unlease a very scary plan that a lot of women can do (not all but a lot), she will "forget" to take her pill or some other twaddle, and then become pregnant and use the baby to shackle him. not all women do this maliciously, some see it as just helping us men in the right direction, or saving the relationship.

That is why he has told you this now, that way if you ever do come to this little idea you will be forewarned that he will not stay by you, he will leave. Hell if hes serious about never having kids then he should have a vasectomy and not tell you about it, that way if you ever do become pregnant he will automatically know that you cheated and tried to pin this baby on him

inb4 femanons/white knights buttrage

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:32:00 No.5872339 Report

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>>5872335
Or so she says.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:33:00 No.5872340 Report

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ITT: overreacting women. Maybe OP's boyfriend should drop HER for blowing this shit outta proportion.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:34:00 No.5872351 Report

Quoted By: >>5872359

>>5872324

Neither of us want children.

I just don't think I could go through with an abortion.

The fact that I would have to suffer all the consequences for a mistake we both made is sad.

Regn !!GRb9Si3Ljzf

Regn !!GRb9Si3Ljzf Tue 03 May 2011 04:35:00 No.5872356 Report

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>>5872279
>>5872279
>>5872279
>>5872279
>>5872279

This.

>>5872314
>You don't leave spilled milk on the floor.

ITS A BABY. A LIFE. You are the reason some kids grow up to be shit. If someone wants an abortion because they where not ready to have a kid then they should have it. This is not the 1800s, people have kids when they are mature enough.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:35:00 No.5872358 Report

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>boyfriend *note not husband
>teenagers *note he's not ready for a child
>hurt girlfriend *note you're not mentally mature enough to endure a long lasting serious relationship.

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 03 May 2011 04:35:00 No.5872359 Report

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>>5872351

You know you won't have to suffer all of the consequences, you'll garnish his wages for 18 years.

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