>>7292326You have to start winning the harvest festivals every year, even the first one (pick a birth month that is far from the beginning of October, like late October or November). For the first year, you grind farm and do art classes. If you have a hard time affording enough classes, you can always go adventure and just avoid fights, grab a couple of chests with expensive stuff, sell them for money and proceed. Most of the time it makes the most sense to sell the rewards from the festival, other than the royal sword; never keep any other reward than the sword at the very end, or you might unwillingly drift into a mediocre end, like a dancer end if you keep the reward from the dance competition. Butin general, you can get more of the stats by selling the stuff and taking classes.
For the second year, you should be able to win the dance competition. Note that getting your daughter raped is the quickest way to raise her charisma, but if you do this too often, you'll end up with Cube (though you might like that). Stop farming when you get to the dance classes.
Note that most jobs aren't worth doing, you should be able to afford mostly going to classes from when she is 11 or 12. The jobs you should do are farm (for money and strength at the beginning), housework (to max temperament), baby sitting (for her maternal instinct, a hidden stat), bar (to max conversation) and possibly church if you have any sin you want to get rid of.
Also use special events (like mermaid's tear + sea, fay showing up at magic training, the special event at the graveyard in December I think, demon cave, sleazy dragon giving you money) to your advantage. Adventuring gets you a lot of money. Raise your refinement and decorum with classes to talk to castlefolk, and figure out what each one of them likes.
That should get you started.