>>4737019Same person.
I also happen to be a very lazy person until the right motivation comes along. The right motivation being someone I want to be a better person for. Someone who will go out of their way to "help" someone like me. That kind of person, I do anything (within reason) for.
I met a woman who told me I could be her "househusband". I could live in her house and she would pay for anything I want if I just keep it clean and working... and give her the same "attention" during sex as I did the first time (or better). That motivated me to get a job, one that paid quite well. Occasionally, I would skip the laundry one day or the dishes one night or something. She let it go... until I got a second job. Use your imagination.
She told me she wanted someone she could trust to manage the parts of her life she couldn't. I couldn't, anymore. I could buy her beautiful necklaces and take her out frequently to nice places, but I was skipping out on housework. Housework she needed done to maintain her own life. I got carried away with that second job, thinking at the time that I was doing a good thing. I dropped the ball. I quit my jobs and stayed at home, but the damage had been done. After making the money I had been, suddenly being a charity case all over again bothered me. She could tell. We drifted and that was that. I knew it was going to happen the moment she mentioned "househusband", even jokingly. I just forgot. I forgot to hold on to what I had.